Comments on: Lilith Saintcrow on the Ideal Man

by: Sherry Thomas

Wed, 29 Aug 2007 01:54:27 +0000

Amen! And Amen again.

Mine is kinda messy. He doesn’t see it. But when he notices he does try to pick up. And he washes dishes. And does laundry. And is great with the kids. And never complained once during my crazy year while I carried on a full grad course load and banged out three versions of the same novel and was hardly ever seen around the house.

And he has a butt to die for. So I’ll live with the messiness.

by: Richelle Mead

Sat, 25 Aug 2007 05:07:04 +0000

Ohhh, Lilith! You’re touching on my mid-life crisis topic. This is the one that keeps me up at night. Sigh. I’m not sure I’m making the right choices with it…damn you and your compelling logic!

by: Suzette

Fri, 24 Aug 2007 15:19:19 +0000

LOL. Love this post! I got lucky with a HAWT man who cooks(really well), cleans, and even sews(yes, ladies, sews!) Oh, the ultimate thing about him, he is a FANTASTIC dad! They are out there so I agree with Lilith, dont settle for less.

by: Nikki

Fri, 24 Aug 2007 02:11:38 +0000

When our kids were little, and even earlier in our marriage, we didn’t really have the dynamics worked out right. Well, I did the stuff inside the house, and he did the stuff outside the house, and that was back when he did all the car work. But now, 33 years into this, we have things worked out pretty well. Our kids are grown and gone, and I don’t have to cook any more. He loves to cook and he’s really good at it. I wash the dishes. When he realized that I hated doing laundry, he started doing his own, and I do mine.
But the best part is if I work late, I can smell dinner when I get home. Sometimes I stay late grading papers just so I can walk in and sit down and eat. I take food to school for my friends, and everyone wants to borrow him (but sadly for him, only to cook). He still has trouble remembering to put the broom away after he sweeps, but, hey! he sweeps. When I compare him to some of the husbands of my friends, or God! even worse, my brothers-in-law, things look pretty okay.

by: Rosie

Fri, 24 Aug 2007 00:36:03 +0000

As my friend Nina Merrill often remarks, “Marry a geek. They try harder.”

My Dad did nothing around the house. Mom said, “they don’t change.” It was enough to scare her daughters. In our family we say, “Marry a dork…they make the best husbands.”

by: shuzluva

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 19:30:42 +0000

I’ve had a ball reading everyone’s comments. Lilith, having re-read your post I can’t get over how it’s really spot on.

Mmmm…massage. Well, I really can’t complain; I’ve tried to get the hubster to give me massages but I’ll have to settle for him cleaning up after himself, doing dishes, tromping up and down the stairs when I’ve forgotten something and don’t feel like doing it myself, and providing excellent child care. The fantastic sex doesn’t hurt either. But I might have to send him to a few massage therapy classes. We can always strive for perfection. Well, for him. He loves me with all the flaws!

by: Chris S

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 17:57:29 +0000

I guess I got lucky… mine cooks, cleans and does Laundry…..now if I could get him to give me a proper massage… (big sigh)…… Love this post..

by: Teresa W.

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 15:21:16 +0000

Enjoyed the post and I agree that the ideal man would be one that helped with housework such as doing dishes and laundry without being asked. When my dad was still alive he was the ideal man for doing household chores. I think he actually enjoyed it and wish I could find one like him.

by: Lorelie

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 14:31:38 +0000

And if he could sew buttons, at least back onto his own clothing, that would be great, too. (That always seemed like a basic survival skill to me, but I’ve met lots of guys who can’t do it).

Heehee!! Anything I’ve sewn looks like it was done by monkeys. The husband is the rescuer of buttons and hems and drawstrings. I even once made him fix a seam in my dress when we were headed to a ball.

by: May

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 13:49:18 +0000

You already know I love you Lili, but this demonstrates why all over again.